How Can I Help Others?
Offering a Hand to Those in Need
If you believe that somoene you know may be experiencing sexual violence of some kind, let them know you care about their well-being and that you can help.
You can help a friend or acquaintance who shows signs that they are living with, or have been a victim of, harassment, sexual assault, relationship violence, or stalking:
- Believe them - don't question or dismiss their experience.
- Listen to your friend - keep questions to a minimum, and ask how you can help.
- Assure them that it is not their fault that this has happened.
- Tell them that help is available - share the resources on our Resource page, and let them know that you are here to support them in whatever choices they make.
If a Friend Has Been Accused, You Can Help Them, Too
We want to support our friends and to be there for them in times of crisis. But when someone has been accused of sexual violence, it can be hard to know what to do. If someone you know has been accused, you can still help.
- Listen from your friend's point of view.
- Accept your friend as a person, even if you have questions about their behavior.
- Provide an atmosphere in which your friend can express honest feelings.
- Be honest with your friend about how much support you can provide.
- Help your friend find resources for dealing with emotions, as well as the situation.
- Let your friend make the ultimate decision about what to do.
- Direct your friend to campus resources, including the Title IX Coordinator, Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), Student Health Services (SHS), and the Student Support and Advocacy Center (SSAC).
- Realize that you may also be affected, and seek counseling if necessary.